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The Christmas Dinner Love Triangle?
Q: Dear KingLove:
I've got kind of a weird problem. I went to my boyfriend's parent's house for Thanksgiving and had a weird experience. My boyfriend's older brother, whom I'd met a couple of times before, was very touchy. When I left, he kissed me on the lips a bit too hard. He's pretty hot, I've got to admit, but the whole thing is freaky. I don't have family in the state, and so we were going to go there for Christmas, too. I'm not even sure what question to ask- perhaps you understand!?! Jenny, Missouri
A: Given your situation, and perhaps mixed feelings, we can suggest two courses of action. We also throw in a somewhat ridiculous prescription at the end if you're up for a real adventure.
1. You don't feel comfortable with the brother. This one's easy - you need to tell him privately that as much as you think he's great, his being an extra warm person makes you uncomfortable. It's embarrassing, but it's gotta be done. If you're not comfortable doing that, you're going to have to avoid him or be very cold to him, which could create other problems.
2. You like the brother possibly more than your boyfriend. You did mention he was "pretty hot." If that's so, you need to see if he's still so clearly into you. You may want to do this after the holiday season. If you consider dumping one brother for another, holiday meals at the parents house won't get any less "weird" next year.
If you're experimental or have a hankering for an awkward situation, you could always bring up the whole situation at the dinner table. Air it out in front of your boyfriend, his bro, their parents & family. Tell me that wouldn't make for a memorable holiday meal. Share the results if you go this way!
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