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Achieving Female Orgasms!
Q: Dear KingLove,
I have never cum during sex - is there something wrong with me?
Trish, USA
i'm having trouble achieving an orgasm, could it be because of something i'm not doing?
Jen, Canada
A: Orgasm related questions are popular (throughout North America) and certainly very important!
We want to help you ladies achieve orgasm, because it's worth it. Well worth it. It can change your life! From our experience, and from what the medical industry tells us, the vast majority of women that haven't achieved orgasm can.
Since you didn't give us any particulars on your private life, we'll have to speak in generalities as well.
You're probably not doing anything wrong, but may not be doing enough of the right things for you. If you're with a partner and haven't experienced an orgasm after several attempts, the first thing to do is try the things that feel best for you, and lead you closest to orgasm. You've got to communicate what feels the best for you, and that you want your partner to bring you to this place.
It's not that uncommon for women to require more stimuli, or to take more time to achieve this result. Women are naturally more complex, more subtle and more amazing creatures, I'd have to say. It's part of your allure!
In the biggest picture, the two most popular ways to achieve orgasm are through clitoral stimulation, or G Spot stimulation. That being said, it's important for you to be in the right place, in the right mood, and/or with the person you really care about. There are so many different possibilities why you may not be getting excited enough to achieve orgasm. You mentioned you've never been able to achieve orgasm. Have you achieved orgasm during masturbation? If so, the amount of time and the type of stimuli with help from your partner.
If your partner is having trouble giving you the duration you need, there are several things to try. Peruse the site. From start and stop techniques to a cock ring, special condoms, a desensitizer and even herbal viagra. All can help with duration. You can also teach your partner how to use other parts of their body, or how to expertly use a Vibe to take you the last mile! The G-Spot shaped vibes have also proven to be very popular.
Speaking of the G-Spot, KingLove.com offers a tremendous video, called Unlocking the Secrets of the G-Spot: The Ultimate O which gives you great ideas of how best to achieve orgasms. It's part of the Better Sex Video Series, and is professional and discreet. It does contain some nudity. We've gotten rave reviews from several women on this video, and it has some great tips for men as well. Some of KingLove.com's books, such as the Guide to Sex are also excellent and can give you ideas of things like different positions to try which could lead to the orgasms you seek.
This is a very worthwhile quest! Keep communicating with your partner, and trying things that could be right for you!
If after trying these things you still aren't finding an orgasm, you may want to speak to a professional doctor and/or therapist.
We're confident you'll find your amazing orgasms!
Best of Luck
KingLove
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