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The Approach, and Ten Pillars for Successful Encounters
By The Bomber
[Note from the King: Legendary NYC bachelor "The Bomber" is often asked for nuggets of wisdom on the nuances and unspoken rules of greeting, meeting, chillin' and wheelin' with the ladies. Sure, capturing his "lightning in a bottle" isn't easy, but the Bomber is one of the few playas that's willing to allow a peek behind the curtain. "The Approach" is one of the Bomber's first lessons towards building a devastating rap.]
The Approach
Meeting women in social situations and public places has been the subject of discussion since the inception of recorded history. From cave paintings found outside of Bergen County, NJ, to Romeo and Cyrano, and all the way to Leonardo (Dicaprio), there are many schools of thought. However you may refer to the lost art of 'catching a rap, 'breaking the ice,' or 'dialoguing hard bodies', one must understand it takes practice. More importantly, understand that this vast knowledge cannot be imparted in one lesson. It's a building process.
Let's start by ingraining some proven lessons to a successful approach, what has also been described as The Bomber's own "Ten Pillars of Rap" in our heads. Upon committing each of these to memory, and being able to recall them in a moments notice, you will have learned a valuable early lesson. It is for many, the first step towards building a strong and credible rap.
The Ten Pillars of Rap - The Approach
1. The bar scene can be rough, so for openers (no pun intended) make sure your opening introduction is anything but a traditional line. Avoid -like the plague- common clichés such as "Come here often?"
2. Be honest with yourself. If you're not Cary Grant or George Clooney, you may have to work a little harder.
3. Meeting women in bars and public places is like Baseball - a game of attrition. Remember, you hit .300 and you're an ALL-STAR.
4. It's OK to take batting practice (to use another sports metaphor). In other words, you don't have to approach the hottest girl in the bar first. Consider breaking the ice with a woman who you may not be totally lusting after. You don't have to start with the bombshell. Establishing a rap with other prospects will help you to develop confidence.
5. Read her body language. If she doesn't have her shoulders facing you in the first 3 minutes, move on to the next one gracefully.
6. Never - Ever tell her she is beautiful or that you find her attractive the first time you're meeting her.
7. If you have to ask her where she lives or what she does for a living in the first 10 minutes you're in trouble. 90% of guys will ask a woman this and 90% of most women are thinking ----BBBOORRRING!
8. Trust your instincts. If she's not warming to you after the first 5 minutes, move on. So you're not her type.. don't take it personally.
9. Never introduce yourself until after the first ten minutes. It adds a sense of mystery, intrigue and gives you a nice option. If things aren't going well and you need a smooth, non-offensive way out, just use what's been called "The Bomber 3 Step Shuffle."
Step 1: Ask her what her name is
Step 2: Introduce yourself, and
Step 3: say "nice meeting you" and walk away. You're polite, smooth and on to the next feminina.
10. Don't over do it trying to be Jerry Seinfeld or your favorite comedian. Everybody loves a sense of humor, but leave the unending string of jokes to the pros.
Look for The Bomber's next lesson, coming soon. It will include 10 patented Bomber Ice Breakers, sure to have you hitting .300 against aces in all ballparks.
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